The Healing Power of Hugs
Introduction
One story shared by a learner resonated deeply with everyone in the room during a recent two-day caregiver training session. Learners were encouraged to share personal experiences highlighting the impact of various support mechanisms. This particular story was a touching testament to the power of hugs and how this simple act transformed their family dynamics.
A Cultural Awakening
The learner spoke of their 80-year-old mother, a traditional Chinese woman living in Malaysia. She had raised many children with a strong adherence to conservative values, where physical affection was rarely displayed. In her household, love was shown through actions like preparing meals, ensuring education, and maintaining a stable home. Hugs and kisses were not part of their daily lives.
However, a trip to an Asian country changed everything. During her visit, the elderly mother experienced a culture where hugging and open displays of affection were common. This exposure sparked a transformation in her mindset. She realized that physical affection could be a powerful way to connect with loved ones.
Embracing a New Tradition
Upon returning home, she began subtly seeking hugs from her children. Initially, they were taken aback, unfamiliar with this new approach to expressing love. But one of her younger daughters, who was particularly proactive in organizing family gatherings in Singapore, saw the potential for these small gestures to enhance their familial bonds.
This daughter often arranged events that brought together siblings, grandchildren, and other relatives. At each gathering, the elderly mother’s quiet anticipation for hugs became evident. Though her children felt awkward at first, they gradually embraced this new practice. The learner described how each hug started to melt away years of stoicism and formality, replacing them with warmth and closeness.
Transformation Through Affection
The change was remarkable. Family gatherings became vibrant with joy, laughter, and genuine expressions of affection. The mother’s eyes sparkled with happiness each time she received a hug. The grandchildren, who were initially shy, began to approach her eagerly, ready to share in the newfound family tradition.
The learner emphasized how this simple act of hugging had significantly improved their family relationships. Communication became more open, and emotional bonds grew stronger. The elderly mother, once a figure of traditional authority, became a symbol of love and warmth. Her children, who had struggled to express their feelings openly, found a new way to connect deeply with their mother and each other.
A Legacy of Love
Towards the end of her life, the mother was surrounded by a family that had learned to cherish and openly express their love. The hugs she both gave and received became a vital part of their gatherings, leaving a lasting legacy of affection and unity.
Lessons for Caregivers
This story, shared during the caregiver session, highlighted the profound impact of simple acts of love and how support services and family initiatives could incorporate such practices to enhance the well-being of seniors. It underscored that while caregiving often involves medical and practical support, the emotional and relational aspects are just as crucial. The learner’s narrative reminded everyone that sometimes, the most powerful support we can offer comes from the heart, through the warmth of a hug.
This story is a powerful reminder of the transformative power of simple acts of love. It encourages us to incorporate more physical affection into our daily interactions, especially with our elders. By doing so, we can create deeper, more meaningful connections and foster a sense of warmth and unity within our families.
Author: Carol Loi, PhD
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23 May, 2024
Dr. Carol Loi is a registered nurse, genetic counsellor, and writer. She has been teaching mindful caregiving and self-care strategies through various caregiving and health-related courses.
Dr. Loi is dedicated to enhancing the quality of life and promoting well-being for individuals of all ages. She aims to raise awareness about crucial health issues among the general public.
You can find her on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carol-loi-phd-5a8655a or learn more at serenityseekers.sg